Meet your therapist

I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) specializing in couples therapy, relational patterns, and somatic approaches to emotional change.

My perspective as a therapist has been shaped by a combination of ongoing personal development, education, and lived experience.

As a queer woman, I’m especially attuned to questions of identity, belonging, and the ways people navigate relationships across difference and complexity. I also had the unique experience of growing up TCK/CCK and grew up across multiple cultural environments, including North-Eastern China and the Navajo Nation in New Mexico. I often experienced myself as living between worlds and identities, and that experience continues to inform the way I listen for nuance, context, and what is unspoken in people’s relational lives.

I work especially well with people who:

  • feel outside of the norm

  • experience themselves as outsiders within systems or communities

  • are navigating identity, relational, or life transitions

  • want a therapy space where complexity and nuance are welcome

Clients often describe me as grounded, engaged, relational, direct-but-compassionate, and genuinely curious about understanding people deeply.

My training includes attachment-based and experiential approaches to couples therapy, with advanced focus on how emotional and physiological patterns shape relationships.

Outside of my professional roles, I enjoy spending time with my partner and our two cats, practicing yoga, and trying to keep up with my Mandarin Chinese.


I earned my clinical masters degree in counseling psychology and somatic psychotherapy from the California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) in San Francisco in 2020 and I have been managing my own private practice since 2024.

Though my primary framework is Formative Psychology, I lean on the PACT and EFCT frameworks for my couples work. I am trained in PACT Level 2 and have completed advanced training in EFCT (LGBTQ+ centered).

I am also a doctoral candidate in Integral, Transpersonal, and Somatic Psychology at CIIS where I am currently wrapping up my somatic-focused doctoral dissertation on the embodiment of romantic attachment among adult TCKs.

CV

  • Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) Professional Consultation with Katharina Sandizell, LMFT

    • March 2026 – present (ongoing)

    Formative Psychology Professional Consultation with Christina Loeffel, LMFT

    • July 2024 – present (ongoing)

    LGBTQ+ Centered Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) Core Skills with Robert Allan, PhD, LMFT and Sandra Taylor, PhD, LMFT

    • September 2025 thru March 2026

    LGBTQ+ Centered Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) Externship with Robert Allan, PhD, LMFT and Sandra Taylor, PhD, LMFT

    • June 2025

    Formative Psychology Practice Group with Christina Loeffel, LMFT

    • June 2019 – March 2025

    PACT Couples Consultation Group with Patricia Hart, PhD, LMFT

    • September 2023 - May 2025

    Conversations in Formative Psychology® International Class with Leila Cohn, PhD

    • March 2021 – August 2024

    Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), Level 2

    • August-November 2023

    Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), Level 1

    • January - April 2023

  • California Institute of Integral Studies

    San Francisco, California

    August 2020 - Current

    • PhD Candidate in Integral, Transpersonal, and Somatic Psychology (ITPS)

      • Dissertation in progress, research study completed

    California Institute of Integral Studies

    San Francisco, California

    August 2017 - August 2020

    • MA in Counseling Psychology with an emphasis in Somatic Psychotherapy

    Bennington College

    Bennington, Vermont

    August 2009 - July 2013

    • BLA in Liberal Arts & Mandarin Chinese

      • Self-designed liberal arts major in verbal and nonverbal communication, with a focus in Mandarin Chinese

    Middlebury College Chinese Language School

    Middlebury, Vermont

    June 2012-August 2012

    • Certificate in Mandarin Chinese, Level 2.5

    International School at Xiamen University

    Xiamen, Fujian Province, China

    August 2011-January 2012

    • Certificate in Mandarin Chinese, Level 2

  • Courtenay Houk Somatic Therapy (Private Practice), September 2024 - present

    Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) #147820

    Center for Mindful Psychotherapy (CMP), January 2021 - August 2024

    Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT)

    • Supervised by Christina Loeffel, LMFT with specialized focus in Individuals

    • Supervised by Aaron Hagaman, LMFT with specialized focus in Couples and Adolescents

    San Rafael High School (SRHS) Wellness Center, August 2022 - June 2023

    Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT)

    • Supervised by Judy Schwerin, LMFT

    Center for Somatic Psychotherapy (CSP), September 2019 - December 2020

    Trainee Intern & Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT)

    • Supervised by Christina Loeffel, LMFT

    Prior to my work and education in counseling psychology, I had a previous career in the fast-paced translation industry where I specialized in quality assurance, project management, and localization. I left this field in 2017 prior to starting my MA degree at CIIS.

how I work

My work is especially focused on how nervous system patterns shape romantic relationships.

In couples therapy, we pay attention to:

  • what happens emotionally and physically during conflict

  • how each partner protects themselves under stress

  • where disconnection begins in the cycle

  • how both partners unintentionally reinforce the pattern

In individual therapy, we work to:

  • understand how emotional patterns live in the body

  • recognize what happens internally during conflict or distress

  • build capacity to stay present under stress

  • create new relational experiences that feel safer and more connected

As this awareness develops, people often become less reactive, less overwhelmed, and more able to respond intentionally instead of automatically. This work helps people develop a different relationship to their emotional and physiological responses—one that feels more grounded, connected, and manageable over time.